Disabled Passions

Had a really nice long chat with a really cool person yesterday. Made me think about a few things, mostly how I feel about myself. I’m quite comfortable with my disability and coping with all the day to day stuff, but being dumped over it after four years is different. I’d got used to being in a relationship where I really thought my disability didn’t matter, so my confidence has taken a hit and it’s reminded me how I felt as I was growing up.

I’ve been disabled since I was 6, and I had all the love and support anyone could have asked for from parents, family and friends. In my teens I started to realise that I was different, and that this difference did matter. It started to become all about what I couldn’t do, not what I could do. My friends were getting into boys, so was I but very few looked at me as girlfriend material. Then I went to university, and met a whole load of new people who all seemed much more accepting of someone who was different. I had a really good social life and to my surpise having a disability was not the social disadvantage it had been up to then. I had a few dates and eventually lost my virginity and stayed with the guy for the rest of the first year.

Now I’m starting to feel like I did in my teens. I’m at the age where many people start to think about settling down (marriage even?), so what if guys look at me now as girlfriend material but no way will they want to commit the rest of their life to me? I do wonder if I’m being unreasonable by expecting the average guy to look at me in the same way as any other girl, when I’ve never been out with a disabled guy. I think perhaps that’s why I joined this site, to find out how I feel about being with someone who has a disability.

Anyone else got any thoughts or experiences on this issue?

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